The language of sex is an interesting book that will spice up your relationship or marriage. A book that will educate you that sex is very important in marriage. But there are far more important things needed to be provided that will lead to the best sex of your life. Which are Honour – Security – Intimacy – Sex. These are what will pave a way for you to experience the sex you ‘ve never experienced before. Honouring your spouse in every little way makes him or her feel secured, which leads to intimacy and finally results to great sex.

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Sometimes am confused, sometimes I lack concentration, many times am forgetful. And I began to ask myself. What is happening to me? And almost immediately, I heard an inner voice within me saying” you know what is happening to you which is affecting you negatively, and only you can put a stop to it. I was not comfortable with this, so I began to wonder and ponder. What could this be? And all of a sudden, it popped up like a volcano with it’s molten magma  as it caresses the earth. “You put too much interest in your past mistakes and short comings, always blaming yourself for your mistakes and the embarrassment it brings”.

Thinking  about these always (your past mistakes).Will make you to be less focused in life, lack concentration and more so very confused in life.

Then in order to make it in life. To show yourself approved. To be an exceptional person. You have to drop those clutches, and stand fit and bold in order to conquer.

Always use your past mistakes and short comings as a lesson to shape your future and not to wallow in self pity and disappointment.

Things that always make us to be more Focused.

So, today we will be discussing about things, situations or thoughts that have always make us to be more focused in life. Sometimes, we always behave inappropriately or say things carelessly without knowing the repercussions of such deed. Even when the repercussions are very obvious, we tend to ignore them.

Though we are all humans, and we have the right to behave in a manner or ways we want. But I put it to you today, that if you actually know the kind of person you want to be, the limit you want to set for yourself, what you tend to achieve in life. There must be that one thing that have always being a motivating factor that whenever you recall or think about, it will trigger you into doing something positive.

According to the Nigerian great entertainer Charley Boy who finally responds to critics on June 2016, as to why he sometimes sleep in a casket. In a media interview, the icon revealed a full hint to the reasons behind such act of his. “Point of correction, to all my fans worldwide, I don’t sleep in a casket. I sleep on my bed, and I have a comfortable big bed. I lay in my casket when I do my meditation, because it help me to be focused, it tells me more about the imminence of death. My casket is a reminder. It wakes me up from slumber. It tells me “guy you have got little or no time left, so wake up, be creative and work harder”.

I somehow succumb to this, because the thought of death reminds me of so many things. It always make me to be conscious of myself and my behavior. Though many times, I do deviate, but sometimes I do ask my self “this thing am about to do, what if I die today, what will become of me”. So I will fight to avoid it if it will yield a negative result. Charley Boy stated that “in life death is the most important reminder of all activities”.

Do you agree with that? If not, what is the major thing that always make you to be more focused in life?

What are the thoughts or situations that always make you to fight in order to become a more positive person?

Understanding Human Beings

Human beings are delicate creatures who look alike physically, but are different in their behaviours, emotions, thoughts, values, motives, characters, perspectives, goals and so on. Because of these diverse psychological concepts which they can’t live without, but rather made them whom they are is the reason they do behave differently. Human being are like a Mirror, and once you don’t see through them, you will never get to know them, understand them, and feel their pains. Though there are times when behavior is faked and is misinterpreted, but it will be for a short period, because nature can not be cheated no matter how hard we try. What we are feeling or our state of emotion are always portrayed through our body languages, actions and speeches. Body language is a major factor in understanding human beings, and mastering them results in knowing and understanding them more.

There are numerous principles in understanding human beings, but here we will be looking at few

  • know that they behave differently.                                 Behaviour is the way a living creature behaves or acts. Our behaviours are always guided by our emotions, we act out what we feel. As people are different, so as their behaviour and in knowing them, you must learn to understand their behaviour, and moreover, looking further to the reason behind their behaviour will pave a way in knowing them more. Sometimes, things are not actually what it seems, and the reason behind a behaviour explains an individual more not the behaviour exhibited.
  • see from their own perspective.    people will definitely trust you when they have being assured  the right to their feelings, thoughts and ideas, without contradiction, and making them believe you are feeling what they are feeling. When this rapport have being established, they will be free and open, and be true in whatever they say or do.

master their mood.                           Naturally, our moods are always  unstable. The instability of the mood can be caused by psychological, physical, or emotional factors. Every behaviour an individual portrays at any moment, is because of the state of the mood. To understand people, you have to understand their mood, know when they are angry, sad, or happy. Know when they are accommodating or irritated. And by found so, you will know the appropriate time and the right measure to approach them.

  • Allow them to make decisions.      when you must have understood and mastered peoples mood, never force them into making decisions. Allow them to think and make decisions for themselves. Because a decision that one took willingly by himself can be carried out easily compared to one taken for him. Every individual sees himself as being unique, and allowing them to make decisions themselves and respecting it makes them to feel whole and compete.
  • Give necessary aids.                          All you have to do is support people I any way you can. Starting with respecting their opinions and decisions. Always assure them of your availability when needed. Some people only need someone they can trust. Make them believe they are save with you, and make sure not to disappoint them. At time goes on, you will come to realize that these are only what they need and nothing more.
  • Avoid comparison.                            Comparing people makes them feel inferior and unwanted. It is better to encourage someone than comparing them with others. This makes an individual really uncomfortable and irritating by thinking that others are better than him. Ad this will lead to inferiority complex, anger, hatred and other negative factors.


Thinking about making friends and influencing people, this book is a sure guide to actualize it.


The world of books is the most remarkable creation of man, nothing else that he builds ever lasts. Monuments fall, nations perish, civilization grow old and die out
After an era of darkness, new Rae’s build others, but in the world of books are volumes that live on still as young and fresh as the day they were written, still telling men’s hearts of the heart of men centuries dead. CLARENCE DAY..